Friday, February 27, 2009

irresponsibility.

HOW HAVE I MISSED THIS??

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nadya_Suleman

Nadya and I share a few important things in common. We both love babies. We both have always dreamed of having our own families. We both can't (well, couldn't, in her case) wait to have a little person to connect with that is actually a part of yourself.

There is one MAJOR difference:

I have common sense, and this dear woman does not.

Nadya had octuplets January 26th of this year. OCTOPLETS = EIGHT BABIES. HOLY SHIT. EIGHT. Eight premature, tube fed, hanging out in incubators, crying, pooping infants. Lovely for Nadya, now she has the big family she'd been dreaming of, except she probably won't sleep for the next 5 years. EXCEPT WAIT. She already has six kids at home. UNDER EIGHT YEARS OLD.

The woman now has fourteen (more than a soccer team's worth of kidlets) all under eight years old at home.

I mean, whatever, John and Kate have 8, I'm sure she can manage, with her husband to help out. .. Oh wait, nope, she's single.

Good thing she's got a good job then, she's got a lot of mouths to feed and a lot of medical bills to pay .. oh wait.. nope, no job either. She's been on disability for a spinal cord injury that happened as the result of a riot from the mental hospital that she used to work at.

Oh wow, she must have been fertile to make eight babies on her very own! Uhh, nope, no she wasn't, she had ALL FOURTEEN KIDS via IVF treatment.

How the HELL does a broke woman with a bad back have the means to undergo IVF no less than six times?? How do they let her keep coming back when she's on government support? Are there no regulations on IVF? It enrages me that it's easier to get medical assistance to pop out a soccer team (with no money, keeep in mind) than it is to adopt ONE orphan (who's already been born, FYI) from a foreign country. Good luck even adopting a child as a single parent.

I haven't even mentioned her plan to provide for her children: she's going to go back to school in the fall to get her Master's, in order to qualify for higher-paying jobs. According to her she'll be able to do it with student loans and government support. Don't even get me started..

Sunday, February 22, 2009

debate.

What are YOU doing Friday night? Well I, dear reader (..s, readers, a girl can hope!), am headed to a debate on campus between a philosophy professor and a religious studies professor. The title is, "Does God Exist?"

I love this form of debate. Two educated, well spoken individuals conversing in a non-threatening manner about a topic near and dear to many people's hearts. Plus, there's a bar! Now THAT promises to make the night more interesting..

Thursday, February 19, 2009

completely unrelated topics.

  • My wonderful boyfriend bought me Lindt chocolates for Valentine's Day. I decided it would be nice if I took a few home to share with my brother and my mom. Tip of the Day: Lindt chocolates do not travel well in your coat pocket.

  • I hung out with some girls on Monday that I love dearly. We went to Starbucks and saw a movie.. and let me tell you, there is nothing like a vanilla soy latte, Confessions of a Shopaholic, and girl talk to get your week started off right. Thanks ladies!
  • Whatever happened to reusable diapers? They're still around, Sears even sells them. My mom used them for my brother and I, which was probably more a factor of cost than concern for the environment.. regardless.. thanks Mom! Relax guys, I'm not pregnant. I just love babies, a lot.
  • Remember Toploader's "Dancing in the Moonlight"? I was in the middle of junior high when this came out. In case you've never heard it, or feel the need to reminisce, here's the link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DHkmLEhFq44. Enjoy!

Tuesday, February 3, 2009

thoughts of a new year.

Has it really been six months since I've posted? It's unbelievable how time passes, even when we think we're paying attention.

The last time I posted, I was singing the single song (how's that for an alliteration), and I can honestly tell you that I was very content in that moment. I've always been one to enjoy quiet time alone, and I have no problem with spending an evening (or three) alone. I find that when I am surrounded by people, I find it necessary to escape, even for a few minutes, to collect myself and remain grounded. That being said, I have this intriguing mix of loving attention and being in the middle of it (as I'm sure many will tell you), but this need to pull away and be on my own.

How does this interesting mix fit into a relationship? You would think that it would be difficult for me to open up to someone, when I have this need to be alone. Having entered into a relationship this past fall has taught (and re-taught) me things about myself. Sometimes I have the opposite problem - falling too hard and opening up too quickly. I worry that it may cause me hurt, as I have a hard time keeping myself guarded in the excitement of a new relationship. I trust quickly, and give a lot away emotionally, which - while allowing me to draw closer to someone very quickly - has the potential to hurt me a lot if the relationship ever fails.

Balance really is the key to everything we do - eating, exercising, working, playing. I believe the same can be said for relationships; it is necessary to give of yourself and work towards sharing who you are with another person; however, it must be done on an appropriate timeline, or you risk hurting yourself, or the other person. That being said, what is an "appropriate timeline"? I don't have one, apparently..